Selfishness. It's a very interesting word. A very nice word to describe nameless even. While I'm over here crying my eyes out this dude is feeling free. Yes, I said it. Free. Why? because the breakup was my fault. No, let's not talk about how crappy he treated me. Let's talk about how overbearing I was. Let's talk about how I was really, really, really insecure because I knew he was hiding something from me. Yes, ladies and gentlemen the break up was
all my fault. I am the reason for this. Right? Let's not talk about how he wouldn't communicate, distanced himself emotionally, would go a week or more if I let him without speaking to me, left a card in my locker for my birthday without saying a word, would walk away from me when I wanted attention that he was barely giving me in the first place. How I put up with all of that crap because I
loved him, but when I realized it was draining me and I called it quits, he came prancing back. I gave him a way out, because it seemed like he didn't care. KEY WORD: WAY OUT. I gave him a way out FIRST. IF I WAS SO OVERBEARING WHY DIDN'T HE TAKE IT WHEN HE HAD THE FREAKING CHANCE. I was only a product of the way he treated me, but yet it was my insecurity that broke us up. 3 years by the way, and just allllll of a sudden, I became so "overbearing?" For no reason? Hmm, interesting. But let's just look a little closer at this. He says, I was overbearing, but who didn't want to talk to me? I clearly kept stating what I wanted, which was communication. But what did he keep doing? Not communicating. Oopsies. Sorry that I had to turn on my crazy, to get him to finally say what it was that he wasn't telling me, but instead he left me. Ooo plot twist.
Why would you leave someone who you claimed to have loved so much that nothing could change it? What's so bad about communicating? Funny, how he could tell everyone else this reason but me. Instead of saying how crappy he was, he tells them I was "overbearing," "we were arguing, and it was too much." Of course it was, that's why in our last year of being together I would cry most nights because I didn't understand why he was so neglectful. When all I wanted was for him to just talk to me. But it's my fault. There you have it, y'all. I'm the reason we broke up. Yay. I waited two years for this.
PS: The worse part is that this is what he's telling other people, and it's so embarrassing. But I mentioned something earlier: I became a product of the way he was treating me. And no one will ever know just how bad it was because he's gonna sugarcoat it and make it look like it was all me.
PSS: Oh yeah, I don't think I ever explained why he was selfish. I mentioned that I put up with his crap because I loved him, which means that I put him before myself and that's what you do when you "love" someone. But instead of fixing things with me like I tried for almost a YEAR to do with him, which would have been so easy to fix, he ran. How is that love? Why would he ever utter that word out of his mouth if he ended up leaving for not doing what love is supposed to do best: overcome?
Until Next Time.